Heterosexuality is romantic attraction, sexual attraction or sexual behavior between persons of the opposite sex or gender. Along with bisexuality and homosexualityheterosexuality is one of the three main categories of sexual orientation within the heterosexual—homosexual continuum. The term heterosexual or heterosexuality is usually applied to humansbut heterosexual behavior is observed in all mammals and in other animals.
I was 19 when I first had full-on sex with another man. I was at college, living in dorms, and the experience—aside from the usual horrifying awkwardness and somewhat spontaneity of the occasion—was completely and utterly unremarkable aside from one thing: the guy I slept with identified as straight. It was late or early, depending on your outlook on the world when I was joined by the boy who was living in the room next to mine, way back on the other side of the building.
This divide stems from a common understanding of human sexuality: The female variety of it is more malleable, more inherently open to experimentation and variety, than the male variety. In doing so, she shows that homosexual contact has been a regular feature of heterosexual life ever since the concepts of homo- and heterosexuality were first created — not just in prisons and frat houses and the military, but in biker gangs and even conservative suburban neighborhoods. Science of Us spoke to Ward about her book.
Just as 'out' gay men have a duty to protect themselves from others forcing their will upon them, men refusing to conform to the label should acknowledge their sacrifice. What does it mean to put a label on your sexuality, to assign a category to your own existence? And where does it come from?
To learn more about why behaviors and identities do not always match, I interviewed 60 rural white men who identify as heterosexual, but have had sex with other men. Social context, I found, plays an important role in mediating the relationship between behavior and identity. My findings have important implications for public health efforts, particularly in rural areas of the country.
GAY men say they have sex with straight men quite frequently. We investigated. Can a straight man hook up with a guy and still be straight?
Paul, a slim, attractive, year-old white man who owns a landscaping company, was referred to me by his therapist with whom he was making no progress shortly after he attempted suicide. When she confronted him, he denied it, but soon broke down and confessed. Devastated and angry, she broke off their engagement, accusing him of being duplicitous she believed they were monogamous and secretive.
Tarun met Rehaan when he moved to Delhi eight years ago. They both were instantly attracted to each other and began dating a few months into meeting each other. Tarun—who had spent 16 years in the rural Moradabad area of Uttar Pradesh—found his life completely turned around.
Illustration by Eleanor Doughty. Matt didn't know it was possible for a girl to have a dick before the model pictured in his Hustler -esque mag drew seven inches. She had slipped in unannounced between the magazine's other, more typical spreads.